5 Ways to Grow Your Weight Room Confidence
It’s no secret that ya girl loves her time in the weight room. People often ask me if I love lifting or running more and it’s always such a difficult question to answer, because I always have and always will love both (almost equally). Both make me feel strong (mentally and physically), centered and stress-free in their own unique ways. They both allow me to focus on my needs, get some much needed me time, clear my head and jam out to some good tunes. They show me how much I’m capable of and how far I’ve come, but also how much room I have to grow. They give me outlets to set and crush new goals.
And while I started lifting in the gym when I was 12, I understand that so many of you may have never stepped foot in the weight room which can make it SO intimidating. Big, macho men throwing around weights that weight almost as much as you!? Yeah, that’s enough to make anyone turn on their heels and stick to the cardio machines.
I used to get nervous too, trust me, but over the years I’ve gained enough confidence that I don’t even think twice about spending most of my time in the gym in the weight room. Yes, 80% of the time I’m the only female in there, but I don’t mind. I do my thing and I let the men do their thing and the world goes on as we know it. Shocker, right?
So, if itty bitty 12-year-old nat can lift in the weight room, YOU can lift in the weight room. Here are my top tips to help you gain the confidence you need to walk straight into the weight room with your head held high:
Fake it ‘til you make it: I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but for good reason. IT WORKS. So maybe you’re a little nervous, scared (or even a little petrified) to walk into the weight room, but the more confident the act the more confident you’ll start to feel. AND when you act confident, people think you know what you’re doing. ;) Something else that goes into this is NOT APOLOGIZING WHEN IT ISN'T NEEDED. And yes, I'm shouting. So often in the gym all I hear is women saying "I'm sorry" left and right when it isn't warranted. Sorry is an apology. And guess what you don't have to apologize for? Being in the weight room. Taking up space in the weight room. Doing your thang in the weight room. Knowing what you need in the weight room. Say excuse me if you need to get by someone to grab weights. If you notice someone waiting for you to move so they can grab their weights, simply slide over so they can grab them (because they should use their manners and say excuse me). But don't apologize!!
Realize that no one actually thinks about you: Okay that sounds harsh, but no one goes into the weight room with the intention of judging others. My mom always used to tell me: “you’d stop caring what others thought of you if you realized how seldom they do.” And it’s true! People are in their own zones. If you worry less about what others think you'll notice a huge shift in your confidence.
Go in with a plan: Going into the gym knowing what you’re going to do helps SO much with confidence. I know, even now, if I don’t know what I want to do and just stand there looking around, I feel a little awkward. I like going in with a purpose so I don’t waste time and so I look like I know what I’m doing. I like physically writing out my workouts and bringing them with me to feel prepared and ready to rock. I love finding new workouts on Pinterest, Youtube or even bodybuilding.com (they have a huge workout database!).
Wear something you’re comfortable in: I always make sure I feel comfortable and confident in my workout outfits. If I’m uncomfortable or feel like I have to keep adjusting my outfit, I feel less confident. Find clothes that make you feel and look great! I'm sure we ALL have that one outfit that's straight fire that always fuels the best workouts.
Pump yourself up with music: I am a music fiend in the gym. Whether it’s trap remixes or throwback songs you’d hear in the club, I love pumping myself up with a good playlist. It lets me get lost in my own head and gives me the boost I need to be in the weight room.
(and because people always ask - these leggings are from Old Navy and I'm obsessed!)
And my unofficial sixth tip? Just do it – it gets easier! You just need to take that first leap and get in there. Slowly but surely you’ll start to get more comfortable.
I promise that you’ll start feeling like the bada** b*tch (wow I need to simmer) that you are in no time. The initial uncomfortableness is worth it to feel able, capable and worthy of being in the weight room and to feel strong and empowered.
Let me know when you start practicing your confidence in the weight room by tagging me on social media and using #bgcLIFTsmeup!! I want to see all my ladies feeling strong and confident!